Forgotten souls of the night

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Something weird is happening to me. Thankfully it’s nothing overtly neurotic. It’s just that I have been having these dreams lately. That and I can’t sleep, or rather I sleep but I wake up pretty early. Like 3.30am. That’s a tad ungodly, no? Like I’m some sort of a night runner in Kama’gambo (Google that). Should I be worried? Because I’m becoming a bit anxious. A bit shifty.

It’s been going on for two months now, this erratic sleeping pattern. But the dreams only just started. For instance, and please tell me if this isn’t cuckoo. Last Friday I dreamt I was on a stage, before an audience, a real hostile audience. I was telling jokes. Yes, go ahead and laugh because I sure wasn’t getting any laughs from the audience. I was some sort of stand-up comedian, like Churchill, only I sucked. Even in the dream I could tell telling jokes wasn’t my calling. I was wearing my high school sweater and these ugly shoes with a big shiny buckle on the side. And my jokes fell flat on their faces. Nobody laughed, but the few who did laughed at me. The rest lobbed stuff at me – cans of beer, bottles, empty cigarette packets, hats that smelled of vomit, car keys, tomatoes…These things came at me like a gigantic avalanche. I didn’t try to duck them, instead, in a very narcissistic way; I took them all on the chin, perhaps because I realized it was an apt reprieve for my total lack of talent as a comedian. The only thing that was more impressive than my jokes, perhaps, was the stoicism with which I took my punishment.

But before that dream -on a different night- I had dreamt I was seated outside my gate at night, chatting with this loud lout of a neighbor of mine I can’t stand. Him who still lives at home with his parents. Him who comes home at some odd hours, blasting music or fighting his girlfriends as his poor ageing mom tries to intervene. The pied piper of drama. We ran into each other often, mostly at the fuel station but we have never spoken a word to each other, much less a courteous nod. Nothing. And yet I dreamt we were standing at the gate and we were talking about- and wait for this – cabbages! Not politics, not sports, not the weather…cabb-freakin-ages! As if we were a bunch of farmers discussing the rains and manure. Yes, yes, I know, totally vegetable.

In the past two weeks or so I have had many dreams, most of which are unimpressionable and forgettable by the time I stir awake. Small snippets of weird dreams that don’t make sense. Unfathomable dreams. Then as if this punishment isn’t bad enough I wake up at 3am to stare in darkness. I wake up to labour in solitude and in silence because indeed the night belongs to the silent, to the abandoned. The forgotten souls of the night. My body clock has literally gone to the dogs. I called my cousin, a doctor, and I asked her what she thought of this latest phenomenon – I’m one of those people who have a lot of faith in medicine as a profession, the bastion of answers.

“It’s nothing really.” She assured me.

“I’m dreaming about cabbages and my neighbor, surely it must be something.” I protested.

“Look, dreams often are a manifestation of our subconscious.”

“If you are trying to imply that I think of my neighbor then perhaps we are having the wrong conversation.”

“Oh no,” she said good naturedly, “I didn’t mean that.”

“And I don’t even like cabbages. Why would I dream about the two things I don’t like, cabbages and my neighour?”

“Perhaps, look. It’s nothing. We all dream all the time, and dreams shouldn’t make sense.”

She didn’t know what she was talking about but she didn’t want to seem lacking in knowledge. So she was feeding me rhetoric, pep talk. “It will come to pass,” she assured. Well, it hasn’t.

Three AM is a terribly lonely hour. The night is deathly quiet at 3am, still and somewhat melancholic. There is not much to do when the world is asleep but mull over things. I normally get onto twitter in the hope that I will find an insomniac, wandering aimlessly in the timeless space of their Timeline. Normally – against my better judgment –

I log onto Facebook and there, like a thief, I sneak into strangers pages and stare at their pictures and that of their friends while they sleep, oblivious of my intrusion. Facebook burglary. The vanity that lives on Facebook has never ceased to horrify me. But I – like a homeless hound – sniff around for human company. And these images normally make me feel closer to humankind, offering me a buffer from the isolation that insomnia brings. But often when there is no more sites left to prowl on the internet, when there is no bush left to shake for that human feeling, I normally lie back and stare into darkness, into the dark abyss of time that cries out to be filled. Those moments I wish I would rob the missus’s off her undisrupted sleep.

When you have nothing to do but stare into space at 3am you think because your mind is the only escape vessel you posses. I imagine a cab driver sitting in his car, waiting for a fare, but also waiting for sunrise. I imagine him nodding off in his car, dressed in a heavy coat and a scarf, trying to make a living, trying to see his kids’ through school, trying to pay off a loan, dozing off in his car, the vessel in which his dreams live…and ride. I picture a woman in a night bus headed to Nairobi to see her boyfriend because they have been having problems, because he’s been acting funny and they need to talk things over. She needs to look into his eyes to see if there’s still something there, or she is just wasting her time. She sits in night bus headed to Nairobi getting nearer to her moment of truth. I imagine a guy in a plane flying over the Atlantic Ocean, headed to Nairobi. I see him putting away alcohol, numbing his heart which bleeds with sorrow because he is coming home to bury a loved one. I see a man, just back from a night out with this woman he has been dying to impress. They are lying on their backs under the covers, nude. She’s nursing a thin veiled disappointment and he a deserved embarrassment and he’s telling her in an unsteady voice, “This has never happened before.” Hehehe.

This morning (I’m writing this at 9pm, Sunday) I woke up at 3.56pm and checked BBC for the latest. Egypt was still burning. A train had killed people in Europe. Madiba was recovering somewhere in Jozi. Life was going on in spite of my lack of sleep. The blue light from my phone lit my face in the dark; I must have looked like a ghost. Anyway I went to the living room and read this book by Tony Parsons, brilliant writer. The book is about this 50yr old guy who gets a heart transplant from a 19yr old guy and his life starts transforming; he starts acting young; tattoos, jeans, cars, parties, the works. The book talks of Cellular Memory Phenomenon where a transplant recipient takes on the characteristic of their donor. Of how a recipient who received a heart of a teenager who committed suicide ended up killing themselves the same way their donor did. Or how a recipient’s blood group changed upon receiving a new organ. Freaky shit. And I wonder why I can’t sleep. Anyway, somehow an hour later I snatched some snooze, and I dreamt.

There is an opening scene in the movie John Q where a woman (a heart donor) dies on the freeway, her vehicle squashed by a truck. In my dream, I’m carrying her heart in this leather man bag. I swear I’m not making this up. Anyway, I meet these two cops and they ask me what I have in the bag, and stupidly I tell them “Nothing, just a heart.”

“A hat?” they chorused.

“Yes, a heart.”

“Why aren’t you wearing the hat?”

“Well, ‘coz it’s a heart.”

“Is it your hat?”

“Obviously not!”

Look, I will be honest, that bit of conversation didn’t happen in my dream, but it should have. Anyway the cops demand to have the heart. To have my heart, because really I found it so it was mine. I tell them I can’t give them the heart. “Haven’t you watched the movie? This heart is needed to save a boy’s life.” I say. They are laughing at me. Really cackling with mirth. As if I’m real funny. Well, where were they in my stand-up comedy dream? By the way, we are along States House road, and somehow I’m in the car and they are standing on the pavement. I’m pleading with these two heartless officers, who are carrying an ice cooler. Not guns, but a cooler! I don’t remember how that dream ended, but when I woke up I realized I had only slept for 30mins. A deep disturbed sleep. I woke up and went running.

I’m tired of dreaming about cabbages. Really tired of dreaming of being the most hated comedian in Dreamville. If you can’t be funny in your dreams, where else can you be funny? no really tell me, I’m out of ideas here. And I’m tired of carrying hearts in man bags. And of wiry cops lugging ice coolers. I want to say I’m tired of losing sleep, but that would be an oxymoron because if I’m tired why then can’t I just sleep like those politicians in parliament, yes why?

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  1. Biko the solution is one text away. Someone get him the number please. One text and no more loud neighbors, no more failed comic dreams and no more cabbage dreams.

  2. A good and refreshing read. I thought I have awkward dreams. Maybe I it helps to just echo those things that happen in your mind at the risk of looking cookoo and all but I think we risk sustaining sanity if we bottle it all in. However, our challenge is to find a mechanism to channel our anxiety. Do we need to sleep on the couch with a doctor and a note pad? Do we need to pray? Do we need to use ‘herbal’ therapy to get that sleep? I am just throwing it out there…
    Thank you Biko I love your writing and look up to you :))

  3. You are getting old dude; faster than you’d like. Incontinence and insomnia are beloved buddies of the geriatic. Only, you had to philosophisize away your becoming friend. Next time a bet you’ll be telling us how a itchy urinary tract inspired a tale of quixotic ramblings.

  4. We dream of the things we think about most or dread.

    Just a thought. Could be the politicians lie awake for the better part of the night that’s why they sleep. 😛

  5. hehehe….the night is truly a lonely place…as for doctors, are there any who deal in the analysis of dreams, particularly?

  6. Heart-Hat-Heart-Hat you know this could have gone on forever tihihihi, only in Africa are they pronounced the same.

  7. The “unfathomable dreams”-as you call them- have really speckled your repose, Biko. But worry not, your cousin doctor told you, “It will come to pass,”. That’s it.

  8. I can sing for you a lullaby an hour before your bedtime and that will take care of this forbidden problem…… 😉 I enjoy reading your pieces.

  9. “Cabb-freaking-ages”, daddy, don’t you think it kinda backfired there? Doesn’t sound right.

    @Sunshine, u said it! Only in Africa. And Kenya in particular. See: Bird, Bad, Bud, Barred. hehehe. And should u try to prounounce them differently, ur seen as having pride and being too much of a barbie. Hehehe.

  10. I suppose I can offer you my two cent worth of advice here….incase your room is the usual white or cream in colour, it’s time you move to warm colours to relax your senses…the lime greens, peach, lilac etc. The second recommendation incase the bed is standard six then go for a queen size as it gives you room to “float” and enjoy your space of relaxation..

  11. @Michelle, very funny, I must say….lilac, peach. Biko what colours are those?
    Good article, Biko keep them coming.

  12. Here’s my take on your dreams; you’re worried about not being liked by people (dream 1), which makes you worry that you’ll turn into that god awful neighbor dude (dream 2) which would totally rip your heart out (dream 3, because even if it wasn’t your heart, it was because you found it). There you go! I take payment in cash only 😉

    I’ve been having strange dreams too; last night’s had snakes in it. Not cool!

  13. now if in real life you only think of giving oxygen to morons (oxymoron) then that’s why you can’t sleep or can’t get tired of not sleeping.

  14. @ Miamor2111… I think you are so on point especially on point 1.

    @ Biko, I must call you comrade now… because I go through the same every so often. Is why I say insomnia is like Karma… and a b**ch too.

    Not to worry, when you have sorted whatever is bothering your subconscious… it will go away.

  15. @ Bikozulu, “I want to say I’m tired of losing sleep, but that would be an oxymoron because if I’m tired why then can’t I just sleep like those politicians in parliament, yes why?” LOL, what are you saying about our beloved politicans you voted into parliament?
    Are the nights cold is all I will ask you… 😉

  16. @Timothy is there something like great sex? Sex is as good as the participants, the event is determined by the organizers….biko need to write about sex soon so that I can lay it down as I know it. I wrote the book is all I will say today. I always enjoy my mondays because of you Biko. 🙂

  17. I think Mia is right. It’s all about self doubt, and only you can resolve that … until some genius puts a quick-fix in a pill. Great read though.

    1. Thanks 3CB…and what do you know, I agree with you too! Biko, no pill so for goodness sakes, figure it out or find a shrink 😛

  18. This reminds me of this recurrent weird dream I have been having. Sneaking to smoke then my papa finds me in the act. Doesn’t know what to think of it considering that I don’t light. Great read as always buddy!

  19. I see a man, just back from a night out with this woman he has been dying to impress. They are lying on their backs under the covers, nude. She’s nursing a thin veiled disappointment and he a deserved embarrassment and he’s telling her in an unsteady voice, “This has never happened before.”

    Now, real men go thro’ such at least once in their lifetime. I didn’t say that in my dreams, Biko.

    Hahahahahahahahaest.

  20. ‘Our’ dreams are a manifestation of our subconscious?you should probably have a salad to rid you of the cabbage dream.About the neighbour,well,you’ve lost me on that one!

  21. for some reason am thinking about that loudy neighbour of yours as this guy who stays upstairs. each time he is at home i feel like killing a dog.

  22. I suppose you already tried the good old fashioned glass of warm milk.i hear it works like a charm 😉

    Another Monday saved by yet another brilliant piece.
    hats off to you!! 😉

  23. it must be a contagious disease you got there man, because since I’ve become an ardent fan of your blog, I’v experience severe cases of Insomnia, i think might you should be isolated. hehe

  24. Biko, I’m genuinely sorry that you do not get to sleep too well at night, and especially that you wake up at 3am!!! that sounds like something from a horror movie. So I pray you will get some sleep. Good peice though. kama kawaida.

  25. Nice writing. According to House M.D., you are suffering from either OCD,schizophrenia, depression or post traumatic stress disorder(choose the most interesting). Surprisingly, hynosis works best for insomnia,but i cant see your cousin dangling strange objects(like big clocks and compasses) in front of your face to make you sleep.hehe.

  26. I think the first dream represents the pressure you feel to churn out articles that you readers will love and laugh at. You have yourself addressed this issue of not writing merely to provide comic relief.

    You have mentioned farming quite a bit in your works. It rears its head here once more. The gods might be saying something, listen! hehehe! As for that loser of your neighbour,the dream might represent your inner fears of your works not being received well,failing and having to hold court with a loser like your neighbour because you will then be birds of a feather.

    The third dream – get professional help!

  27. ” I see a man, just back from a night out with this woman he has been dying to impress. They are lying on their backs under the covers, nude. She’s nursing a thin veiled disappointment and he a deserved embarrassment and he’s telling her in an unsteady voice, “This has never happened before.” Hehehe.” Biko what are saying here? This is man’s worst fear if not going bankrupt. This I always tell my mates happens mostly when the woman is not sexy enough and has not taken the time to raise the expectations…..don’t blame the man here….

  28. Biko, it’s 3am and I just wanted to let you know that I’m now suffering insomnia *and* strange dreams, like last night when I dreamt that we were running away from KRA (in my dreams we called them the Faux Police). Anyway, I hope you’re sleeping at this ungodly hour but if not, you are not alone. Look what you’ve done!

  29. @Ciiku, men don’t suffer from Lupus. I agree with timothy, good sex is the remedy…..am worried a tad about you there 🙂

  30. @Riettah, menopause? Biko and menopause??? I think I will make my own conclusions and laugh away before I get in trouble with biko because of what am thinking aloud and my office mate is currently wearing a face of major concern…

    1. Tihihi 🙂 ‘men-pause’…or should i say man….okay Agnes, u dont hav to get the….mmh ‘joke’ ….jus laugh it away, don get urself in trouble :-((

  31. This writing is almost about my life and I almost when into a semi shock then again alot of us men suffer from the same shortfalls the common ones are alcohol abuse, money not being sufficient( maina kageni will disagree and I don’t care much), unfulling relationships and having to get another woman to engage us before we get home and then we can have a sound sleep ad dream of big things.

  32. @Chris Kilonzo, I can almost relate to your comments, I said almost here as unfullfilling relationships that most if us men have to endur is the primary cause of our stress level.

    ‘I imagine a cab driver sitting in his car, waiting for a fare, but also waiting for sunrise. I imagine him nodding off in his car, dressed in a heavy coat and a scarf, trying to make a living, trying to see his kids’ through school, trying to pay off a loan, dozing off in his car, the vessel in which his dreams live…and ride.’ Biko even the cab guy dozes off and dreams….what’s up man?

  33. @ Eliud, Chris & Austin, gentlemen so you know it’s not all rosey for some women as well who stay in unhealthy, abusive relationships and marriages because they believe society will condemn them if they walk away; there I say shame on them. Some woman also have to deal with alot and you rarely find them complanining. My advise to Men and Women alike, if you are having a hard time and spend your days and nights pondering on issues that you can change, change them even if it means walking away. Don’t be with someone who says they love you and they don’t, disrespects you and most commonly cheats on you which we know is 90% of couples are doing exactly that.

  34. i really liked this one it seemed to embody the darkness of insomnia with the strangeness of those weird quirky dreams that are peopled with characters that our waking minds wouldn’t give a second thought to.

    and “this has never happened before!” definetely a line women hear even more than “it’s not you it’s me”-and at that point the latter would probably be true.

  35. BBC at night stops you dwelling on issues and staying awake. Dreams? Just your brain shuffling ideas and concepts, how do you think you come up with these columns?

  36. Big shoe…he..he..thats the name of those comedian shoes with a big shiny buckle on the side…Big shoe!te..he..he..

    ‘Look, I will be honest, that bit of conversation didn’t happen in my dream, but it should have.’…messin with us, ish!

    You dreamt about cabbages? I dreamt about childbirth…creepy…scary…uuuh. Had to wake up n check, “WHICH BABY IS REPONSIBLE FOR THIS MESS? SHOW YOURSELF?!!!!”..now whats that? damnnnn.

  37. One Word…BRILLIANT! Maybe its cos I can relate or maybe its cos you bring it out so well, almost as if you wrote this while dreaming it..get it? Like, as you dreamt, you wrote..(I seriously can’t get a better way to explain this..) Love this piece. *bookmarked for future reading*

  38. I discovered you two weeks ago and sincew then i have been filling up my lunch hour at work reading all your articles, you’re good.

  39. I have loved this one the most- If you cant be funny in your dreams where else can you be?. Cant believe am discovering this blog now!

  40. Haha I’ve noticed you tend to have a love (or hate) of Kisii, you do mention Kisii and Kamagambo a lot, maybe you should visit and do a blog about the place because you’ve certainly made me curious….